I (20F) struggle with dating because I’m pretty introverted and a homebody. Most men around my age are not interested in long term relationships right now and just want to have fun and date around. I have been in the talking phase with a few guys but nothing serious has really come from it. Then I get my heart “broken” when they don’t show much interest because deep down I really wanted something more, even though I played it off as being cool. I am about to graduate college early this May. I always assumed that I’d meet someone in my college years since there are so many guys in my presence, but it just hasn’t happened. I’m not a party goer, I don’t go to bars or clubs, and the guys I have met though classes and clubs have all just ended up platonic friends or social media buds. So it’s just hard for me to meet men in general. Now I’m about to enter the real adult world with much older, more work centered people...and I’m worried that the chance of meeting a guy in daily life is going to be so much lower. Especially because my state is really strict on Covid-19 lockdowns, big gatherings where I could potentially meet men are highly restricted.
I have genuinely been considering online dating. Maybe not quite yet, but once I get settled and find a job after college then I’m thinking it might be a good idea to start meeting guys online. It’s starting to become the way of the world, it’s almost a given that you meet online now. I like the more straightforward nature of it. We both know why we are there, and it seems like there’s not as many guessing games and friend zoning compared to meeting in person. I’m worried about trying it out because I like to be serious on dates and getting to know people. I don’t like the talking to be overly casual and hard to interpret, and I don’t feel good entertaining dozens of guys at one time. For obvious reasons, I feel like tinder or something causal or hookup oriented is a bad idea. I definitely want to find someone who has the same goals and shares a similar dating strategy. But maybe there are some more relationship oriented sites or apps? Do any of you guys have success stories online? Do you think I should give it a go, or is it just a recipe for heartbreak and disappointment?
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