I have been talking to a guy and we planned a first date to go grab dinner and go to church the next day. During the date, he told me he lost his fiance 3.5 years ago in a car accident, I offered my condolences and he said it's been a while since he's been out on a date. Which is fine, I told him my history and we talked about families, and the date continued to a movie night. While getting ready for church the next day, he told me he had to go pick up his aunt. And I said he never mentioned he had family close to where we live. He told me that it's his fiance's family and they are still pretty close and I will be meeting them at church. I wasn't taken aback or appalled, but just felt uneasy meeting his late fiance's family at church especially so early on. I don't want to disrespect his fiance's family by meeting them after the first date and also he told them about me, that he's been talking to someone and going out on a date. I told him I felt uncomfortable meeting his late fiance's family at church so early of just meeting him and I canceled. I apologized and he said he totally understood and that maybe he should have planned out the date better. He told me maybe to go on 3-4 dates before meeting his fiance's family.. and I said okay because I don't know the "rules" or "etiquette".
This is my first time dating a widower.. and I want to be respectful and not feel like im stepping over anyone's toes. But how do I navigate meeting a person i'm dating's late fiance's family because he's close with them? I am not weirded out by this, because I understand the bond they have. But also is this okay? I know everyone grieves and heals in certain ways but I'm not sure if I know how to date him without always having his late fiance's family in the picture? He said he sees and stays with them every weekend, and that he would like me to meet them so we can spend time with them. And I don't know if I should just accept it because it's his family too?
Any advice or perspective to help navigate this would be appreciated!
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