Am I Being Insensitive?

This happened just last night, and I'm honestly more frustrated than I have ever been in my life.

I (29M) have been dating "Tina" (26F) for about a year and a half, and we moved in together about half a year ago.

Last night she got back from a work (she works the afternoon shift as a server), and we were decompressing in bed, talking about our day, and just chatting in general.

The topic of my friend came up, who recently broke up with his fiance over a few personal issues, and Tina was listing all the potential reasons he had to break up with her (emotionally unavailable, not affectionate, etc). Tina said something along the lines of "and she's flat and skinny too, like a twig" to which I replied "nah actually she's pretty big. She used to hit the gym every day with him."

This really bothered Tina, to the point of her accusing me of white-knighting the ex-fiance, brought up how she thinks the fiance was attracted to me (???), and proceeded to kick me out of the bedroom. I tried apologizing, telling Tina I understand how that comment may have hurt her feeling in a way I didn't intend since I was talking about another girl's body, but she wasn't having it.

I tried to take the small blanket off of her desk chair since we don't have a spare, and she just bluntly said "that's mine" and ripped it out of my hands. Something in me just snapped. I packed a backpack, got in my car, and slept in a parking garage.

I am genuinely looking for help. Am I being insensitive? How can I better mediate situations like this?
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More context:

Tina kicks me out of the bedroom and locks the door about once a month. The reasons vary from me arriving later than I said I would after bowling league (30min-1hr), me not calling her / texting her enough while away for a weekend on a camping trip with friends (I call her once a day and text her a few times in the morning and afternoon), her not wanting me to masturbate (after a long conversation about our sex drives), and me forgetting to put on the matching promise ring we got (she prefers I wear it every day).

I feel like I am a mellow and loving person. I don't party, I mainly work and study in my free time for my graduate program. I give her massages after work almost every day, I spend almost all my remaining free time with her, we go on trips, explore new restaurants, I buy her flowers frequently, I do everything in my power to make her happy.

But I feel like I'm failing. She yells at me constantly, which upsets me because I've never once raised my voice at her, and it makes it hard for me to stay calm and have a conversation.

She threw out the flowers I got her last valentines day. I thought it would be cute to buy a bouquet of handmade pipe cleaner flowers similar to these: https://www.cchobby.com/media/catalog/product/cache/755d3974c80bb8b82a1bd4bc187860dd/1/2/1250_d4006fd1_dd8f_4871_99b4_18e6e6bfc755.jpg

but she called it ugly, like a kid's art project, and wanted real ones, telling me I shouldn't have assumed she wanted those instead.

Sorry if this turned into a rant.

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