I have been in 3 relationships in the past and the one mistake I think I've made in all of them is that I went wayyyyyy too fast. Like kiss on first date and spending every single second with them after that. Eventually I think I realize I don't actually like them but stay in the relationship long because of the chemistry.
I haven't dated anyone in like a year other than trying to work things out with my ex but that did not work out at all and we went no contact. Went on a date with this guy 2 days ago from bumble, I tried to keep it short and sweet, only 1 hour. No kissing. Well last night I was at work and I was bored and he ended up coming over to my job to have a drink (I work at a restaurant). After I got off, we talked in his car and overall, our time together was like 2 ish hours. He asked to kiss me but I said no. I'm starting to feel dysregulated and like can't focus on tasks I need to do because I think I actually really like him but I'm trying to slow things down and not lust. He's also pushing the boundaries a bit. I told him I wanted to go slow and that it would have to be a while before seeing him again, but he just mentioned I could come "cuddle" with him at his house and hangout. It's hard for me to not but since I've been trying to pause, I'm kinda thinking it's a red flag that he's testing the boundary like this. Advice?
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