I’m f(24) talking to this guy m (31) and we’ve been talking for about a month or two now. He’s a pretty nice guy overall but he’s done a couple of things that’s turned me off and is making me question his true intentions of spending time with me.
He’s talked to me about his past and how he’s divorced and all his ex girlfriends he use to have. He travels from state to state due to his job so usually he’s in one state and dates for a few years then kinda leaves and moves on and he’s currently new to the state that we’re in now. He’s been here for a year. Learning that it kinda made me upset because I am looking to build with someone and I told him that. He’s aware…
We hung out recently and went on a nice date..but during that date again he just did things that threw me off. We went to a dispensary his lady friend recommended to him. We get there and he parks and he kinda sits there and is looking at something and just kept repeating “Hmm…now that’s strange.” I’m sitting there asking him what and he’s not saying anything until three minutes later. Then he was like oh it was just the friend who he asked for the dispensary information from who was just leaving the dispensary themselves…
I’m sitting there like hmm..why couldn’t we have just gotten out and said hi and go about our way? Okay…..so later on that day he was just explaining to me how he doesn’t have much guy friends besides his co workers because whatever his reasons were but he more so has girl friends being up here. Again that kinda threw me off because I met him off a dating app, I’m aware he must’ve talked to other girls before me but just claiming to be friends with them just doesn’t sit right with me…but I left that alone it just turned me off a bit.
So after we were done spending majority of the day together, I asked him to take me home because I had some things to get done. His whole attitude changed, he literally told me he thought “he had me for the night.” And honestly again that threw me off. I didn’t like that he had sex factored into the day like that, we had a nice day together I could always see him another day.
I told him I could always see him another day and he asked me when my next off days were which was Wednesday ( Valentine’s Day ) Thursday and Friday. He works during the week so he said let’s just play things by ear. I said okay that’s fine.
Valentine’s Day is where I just got a bigger perspective of him just lusting after me instead of actually liking me.
I kinda gave him the opportunity a few times to invite me over or do something on Wednesday but he never really budged or address it. He only wished me happy Valentine’s Day that day and that was about it. Thursday and Friday comes around and he’s consistently asking me if I’d like to come over. Now I’m in line checking out mentally. My time is not something to just play with and again I already told him this.
He’s 31 and has been divorced, he knows well exactly what Valentine’s Day is. He knows where I live as well. Even if he did the smallest thing or barest of minimum I would’ve appreciated that and know for sure he genuinely likes me. I spoke to him about it yesterday because again he asked me why don’t I ever wanna see him when I’m off and I told him what he told me about not having much time during the week. Then he proceeded to say “Oh yea but we could always light chill at my place.” So then like I said I brought up Wednesday and then he opened up a can of excuses about working late and not knowing if I was off or not and what not and I just told him it was what it was at that point. I did bring it up to him twice prior to that day so his excuses don’t add up.
Anyways in conclusion I’m just over talking to him, I feel like he’s just lusting after me and isn’t genuinely into me. I told him I was sick….he never took the time to ask me how am I feeling now, but is more concerned about when am I going to hang out with him when he’s skipping over important little things. For me it takes the little things for me to read how someone feels about me. I’m all about intention
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