A bit of background: I’m a uni student gal with minimal experience in dating and I’ve been friends with this guy for a few years now. Recently we’ve been on a few dates and I’m really confused if I enjoy his company because he’s my friend or because it’s anything more..
I liked him for a few months until he asked me out, and now after a few dates I’m not sure if I’m convincing myself that i like him because I liked him before this. But I’m also comparing this to previous feelings for another guy who I was infatuated with for like 4 years previous to this guy, and the feeling was so intense that I haven’t felt it for anybody else, not even the guy I’m seeing right now. So any input on dating a good friend / infatuation vs real feelings would be appreciated. I don’t get to spend so much time with him, and the dates we’ve been on haven’t been very physical, (and so I’m also not sure if I just need physical touch to really get into my feelings) and I do get a nice mushy feeling thinking about the moments when we would borderline cuddle as friends.
Our conversations are enjoyable (sometimes a little too small talk for “dating” though) and otherwise I really like spending time with him. I think he likes me a lot more than I like him, because something deeper is just not clicking for me and I don’t know if that just takes time to develop because we’ve been friends for so long or if it means it’s just not gonna work. We’re having another date soon and I want to bring up the topic; I like him enough to keep going on dates but I don’t know if I really have romantic feelings for him. Is it selfish to say I have no idea what my feelings are and I’d be all for continuing with the dates to see if anything develops? Or should I just cut it off and tell him that we should remain friends? My gut feeling is that it’s not going to work, but there’s so many factors convincing me otherwise. Maybe I’m overthinking.
Sorry this post was a mess but TL;DR I can’t differentiate my platonic affection from my feelings with my guy friend that I started dating. Any insight/experience would be appreciated!
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