A lot of women I know have told me about guys that they cannot stop thinking about or are absolutely infatuated or obsessed with. I dont think i've ever made someone feel that way, and honestly im actually a bit jealous. Like, what are these guys doing to make a girl feel that way about them? Yes yes I know, I have my own life, im independent, im an artist, I love spray painting landscapes and graffiti, Im a software developer and currently I have an internship with NASA (im obsessed with space travel and its a dream to be an astronaut.) I am also an athlete, I do martial arts, I play baseball as a pitcher, and Im a gym shark. I get it, women are attracted to independence, and guys who have their own outside of their relationship. Im not trying to brag about myself or anything, I know im not the best looking dude in the world, im probably just a smidge above average (probably). I know what I want out of life, and personality wise, yea I love listening to others, about their lives, and what they are interested in, I am always striving to be as respectful and honest as possible, I slip up sometimes if Im having a bad day but im human. I just honestly dont know how to attract a woman im interested in, let alone to the point where they can think to themselves, yea im 100% certain im interested in this guy, or to the point where they are obsessed with me, like other women tell me about guys they know. I've never had a handle with dating or just getting the woman im interested in to feel the same way about me.
I dont know if this post made me sound arrogant or boastful it wasnt my intention.
Anyone have any advice?
EDIT: I should probably say that something in my past did have an effect on me emotionally, it wasnt anything big, but a woman I was genuinely interested in, who showed a bit of interest in me, found me to be clingy and desperate, because I often told her she was amazing, thinking she was my soul mate. She was my (I dont even want to call her my first girlfriend because it lasted for a week after I asked her out, knowing her for a month and a half) "first" girlfriend, and I admit that may have made me a bit too infatuated with her. But still I was really emotionally attached to her, but after we broke things off she started seeing someone else, and it just made me really depressed with myself. After I got back on my feet, I feel really good about myself, except for the fact that, now, after my "first" girlfriend, If I find a woman who shows a mutual attraction and interest with me, I am constantly asking myself If I am showing too much or too little interest, and feel like I am emotionally at war with myself. Usually, if I feel like I am showing too little or too much I dial it back a bit, but I just don't feel like myself when I do, even though this way, the girl I am really interested in doesn't lose interest in me for being too interest or too uninterested. It feels as if I have to operate at 75% when it feels right to be at 100%
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