I (24, F) matched with a guy (27) on an app a couple weeks ago. We talked, then met up a few times. Slept together. It was awkward sex, I think that may have kind of soured him to the experience. He's got major mental health and substance issues, so I think that's factoring into his behavior. I also tend to get my hopes up, so I think that's factoring into my response.
Anyway, I messaged him the day after we slept together, and then again today, a few days out. No answer. He's been flaky in the past with communication, but I'm thinking he may just not be interested in me romantically anymore. He made it clear he didn't want commitment, and neither do I, but I was interested in seeing him more.
He'd mentioned that he'd ended up friends in the past with people he'd met on apps. When we were hanging out, I thought we got along pretty well, and could do well as friends. I definitely would be interested in pursuing a friendship with him. At this point, I kind of just would prefer friendship more than anything else, but I don't know how to express that without it sounding weird. I want to call him, but that obviously feels like it could be too much.
He made an offhanded comment at one point about his dog, saying "we could stop talking for 6 months and you could come back, and the dog would still remember you." In a way, I probably should've taken that as a hint that that was in the cards, lol.
Anyway, any advice on how to handle ghosting, when the end goal is not any kind of relationship other than a casual acquaintance/friend-ship? My plan was to give it a few days, hopefully not to seem too incredibly needy/clingy, and maybe reach out with a text/phone call indicating I recognize he most likely isn't interested in any romantic pursuits, but if he . Again, I'm not asking for him to be my BFF, but just didn't want him to leave with a bad impression of me and to essentially leave the lines of communication open. Any perspectives on this?
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