I’m a 26m, very artistic and have always been a perfectionist when it has come to my work. I have never created a piece that I am 100% happy with. It’s always close but not as good as I feel like it could be. I feel like this has carried over into how I approach women and it’s making dating horrible for me.
This only really applies to physical attractiveness to be clear. When I look at girls I would potentially want to date it always seems to be something (nose too big, forehead too big, shes too skinny, her hair looks off, her eyes are too far apart, this one has no boobs, this ones teeth aren’t straight, her clothing decisions give me an odd vibe, etc.) it never ends. I can always find something to focus in on and turn myself off. It’s like I have this unattainable standard and anything less I don’t feel a strong feeling about. How can I fix this way of thinking? I feel like such a shitty person for having my brain think this way.
And don’t get me wrong, this applies to myself as well, I’m not out here saying I’m perfect at all. I look in the mirror and can name many things I would change because they fall below my standards of what I think looks good
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