So this girl (18F) and I (21M) started talking to each other a few weeks ago after she added me on snapchat. I’ve always known about her as she was a somewhat close family friend. I didn’t expect things to go the way they did and I really started to like this girl and she was showing interest back. She goes to college out of town but frequently visits the city I live in because her family is here and it’s where she stays when she’s not on campus.
After talking for a couple of weeks I asked if she’d like to go out to eat and just hang out afterwards when she was in town. She accepted and that’s exactly what we did. It went great and she said she had a good time and would like to hang out again next time she came to town. The next few days I immediately knew something was up. She wasn’t being as active with me as she was before and her responses became very dry but she would always reply.
It’s not until after I asked her what was wrong that she told me she had recently broken up with her ex a few months ago. They had been in a relationship for 5 years. What immediately came to my mind was she couldn’t get over him and I may possibly be a rebound or someone to make her ex jealous. She did say she would like to keep talking. Now it’s been about a week and we don’t really talk, we just kind of send a snap every day to keep our streak. I wanted to give her plenty of space before deciding what I want to do.
Now I’m not usually one to “stalk” someone’s social media however I felt it was necessary here and I happened to check her VSCO profile. Not even a day ago I see she posted a screenshot of a text which appeared to be her ex saying he doesn’t love her like he used to and her replying “Oh okay”. The post was captioned “That one hurted.” So to me it seems she wouldn’t mind getting back with her ex and he wasn’t interested.
I really like this girl but I’m not sure how to proceed with this. I completely respect her space but I enjoyed her company. Would it be ok to ask her to hang out again next time she’s in town strictly as friends with no strings attached? And would saying that mostly likely ruin any chance of ever being in any kind of relationship with her? It appears that she got somewhat of a closure with her ex now after we hung out that night and she became less active out of nowhere.
I haven’t been in a situation like this before. I’ve still got things I’m focusing on in my life and I’m not actively looking for other women. She just kind of came out of nowhere and things developed between us. All advice is appreciated.
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