Hello to everyone and sorry if my english aren't that good.
Some time ago i met a new coworker at work. She approached me by sending me messages in the work chat about random things and we started talking almost daily. What i loved about this girl was that she was only talking to me at work as she is shy and we really had a great time when we talked, she brought me small gifts etc. Our energy matched completely.
As i was talking to her i tried to hint that i liked her more than a friend without receiving something back, she also avoided my hints of me and her going out and she was also seemingly not available on the weekends. My first thoughts was that she had a boyfriend but she never told me directly, from what she was telling me and the vibe i got from our conversations i thought that she was single. We also shared the same gym and i was personally training her because she was new to exercise. The gym was the only place she was asking me to come.
day by day we talked more and more, she was sending good morning texts, telling me she was thinking of me, we were staying up all night talking and we were watching tv shows remotely. Never have i ever though that this type of behavior from a girl is just friendly behavior. I thought she was really interested.
Still she was dodging anything i said about going out together until one day she randomly decided to invite me to the movies. I thought this is it and went on the date. The date was completely friendly and the energy i got was really not what i had hoped for. After the movie she invited me to a local park to continue hanging out and she was still distant.
Because i didn't want to start a friendship with her, the next day i confronted her telling her about my feelings and asked her what she feels about it because i didn't want a friendly relationship with her and i wanted her to know the reason if i pulled away. She told me that she didn't realise any of this and that it was too fast and the wrong timing. She also told me that there are some things about her that i don't know. She confessed that she liked me too but i don't know if this was her way to not hurt my feelings. She also told me that if i walked away she would understand.
fast forward the next day at night she started talking to me again and she still talks to me after 2 weeks. in the meantime i learned from another co worker that she had indeed a relationship and that she got separated approximately at the time we went to the movies.
She still doesn't seem to want to go out with me, she avoids any flirting and the only thing she is interested in is asking me to go to the gym with her. What drives me crazy is that two times that i tried to distance myself and grey rock approach her she confronted me about it asking me "Are we good"?
Can you make sense of any of this? What should be my next step? Ghost her completely, tell her directly that i don't want to talk anymore? I really like her and it's kinda difficult for me to like a girl that much.
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