Before I ask, I have to add quite a bit of context to make this understandable. I (M28) saw this girl (F24) on Tinder, and was impressed by her description and the pictures (mostly hiking pictures, and that's a huge passion for me). She's a PhD in the same university where I study, and I had the impression of having seen her somewhere but couldn't tell exactly where. Considering that my passion for hiking is a huge reason of me studying what I study, I thought she might be working in one of the chair groups that teach for my classes. Due to that, I looked up on LinkedIn and found her immediately. As it wasn't the case, I dropped the matter.
Fast forward about one week, and while walking in the same corridor where the rooms I use to work on my thesis are, I notice the name of the group in which she works on a door. Look at the next one, and that's the office she works in. Here goes where I had seen her.
Now, of course we didn't match on the stupid app (otherwise I wouldn't be asking this advice on this), but chances are that my profile didn't even show up. That said, after asking some friends of mine (mostly asked girls), the plan is to just knock on her door, be brutally honest about the whole thing (not in front of her colleagues, obviously enough, so I'd probably ask her to come outside the office for a moment), and ask if she'd be up to have a coffee break or something.
My aim isn't necessarily to date this person. I do not know her yet, so I can't tell whether I'll like her in the first place. But even if it doesn't work for dating, an extra hiking buddy would be great, so I'd still want to approach. And I'm trying to figure out whether this is a good way.
So mostly the question to girls is: how would you react to such an approach? Would you get mad, or would you be OK with it? So far American friends told me they wouldn't like it, while European ones said that they don't see anything wrong with it, and there's a chance she'll appreciate I had the guts to go there in person.
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