I’ve(21m) used tinder for the past year and I’ve had quite the success. I haven’t been looking for anything in particular. I’m just kind of letting whatever happens, happen.
I’ve had around 10 first dates in the past 5 months. Ive done hammocking, movies, food, and some other stuff. Majority of these dates were women looking for a strictly romantic relationship, while 2/10 were looking for a platonic relationship.
The first dates are always a drag. Getting to know the other person, awkward situations, feeling the need to talk the whole time, understanding boundaries. Initially, it’s exciting but it gets old rather quickly. I absolutely hate the “so what do you do” question.
I’ve recently gone on a group date with a tinderrella and her friend. I brought one of my buddies and went bowling. Night and day difference with level of fun. The focus wasn’t getting to know her but rather being myself and enjoying the moment. I think a lot of us meeting people for the first time have to explain who we are. If you have to explain who you are, it feels fake. I’d prefer to not have to explain and just be myself. Let her pick up on who you are.
For those young dudes struggling on first dates, do a group date with another buddy. I would chose who you bring tactfully. Choosing your buddy is almost as important as choosing your date lol.
Group dates bypass the monotony of first dates.
Let me know about your results!
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