So a little backstory... I'm a male (22), and she's (24).
We both met through a class we had together back in 2017. Initially she ended up messaging me one night asking if I had any plans on that specific night. I of course didn't have plans so I agreed to go for a car ride together. Long story short it was a little awkward at first and then by the end of the night we already made plans to hang out later that week. After some time we eventually discussed our past dating history. At the time I've been single for quite some time, roughly 3 years and she recently got out of a long-term relationship a few months prior. Fast forward a few weeks, we start hanging out more often seeing movies together, going on hikes and what not eventually leading up to us hanging out everyday. We became really close in such a short time but we never really discussed what we "were" at the time because we simply just enjoyed spending time with each other. One night she was having an emotionally rough night and I met up with her to try and help her get in a better mood. We talked for what felt like 30 mins ended up being a few hours. We both were tired as it was getting late and she looked me in the eyes and kissed me before she went home. I was ecstatic, knowing that she actually was interested in more than a friendship. Fast forward a few more weeks, things starting feeling like a relationship to me, (even though we still haven't discussed the subject) and I felt things were going great. Over some time after this period we weren't hanging out nearly as much as we used to which was fine because everyone needs some breathing room. I noticed she was getting less interested in our conversations though text over the next few weeks. One day I happened to see her car parked in another part of town that wasn't where she lived. Standing next to the car was her and another guy (very closely together) . I was taken by surprise but I didn't mention anything to her about me happening to see this. Fast forward a few weeks, things still seemed off we hung out here and there but she didn't seem to be acting the same way towards me anymore. I honestly wasn't sure what to do about this so I just played it down and kept focus on my life. I unintentionally bumped into her while she hanging out with this same guy at a bar in town. I acknowledged her, said my hellos and went on back to my business. I began to notice that there was some awkwardness between her and I from this day forward. She ended up dating this guy. I wasn't really happy about how it came about but I got over it because shit happens in life... We remained in contact as friends which became very clear to me. Over time we still hung out here and there but this was only to grab a quick bite to eat and whatnot. Her boyfriend was aware of this and she explained to him that we were friends. I honestly really enjoyed myself while hanging with her even though we ended up being friends. At this point, I'm over the whole idea of dating this girl and I was happily her friend.
Fast forward to 2020, (nearly 2 years later) we are extremely close friends! I value her friendship so much at this point in life. We've considered ourselves best friends for at least a year at this point. We've been through it all, giving each other advice for things, talking about our problems, going to concerts together, etc. (We're seriously close friends.) All we do is smile when we are together. We talk to each other every single day. Over the past 6 months or so, she's been having some major difficulties with her romantic relationship, (with the same guy from the bar) which I of course being a good friend, I asked about what's going on and if there's anything I can do. She explains to me over the phone borderline in tears that she's extremely unhappy with how things are going with her relationship. She explained to me that things just aren't the same anymore. She doesn't feel like she's in a relationship anymore and that its become more of a choir. After telling me some more examples of what's not going right for the relationship, I ended up calming her down by telling her how important her happiness meant to me. I explained to her that if she isn't happy, it makes me unhappy knowing she isn't. It's become extremely clear over the past few weeks that she isn't herself and it's been honestly bothering me. She's an outgoing bubbly person and to see someone of that nature turn silent and gray it's terrible. I ended up telling her two weeks ago that if she doesn't want to keep living in this dark cloud of unhappiness (again, going on for about 6 months now), that she needs to either put her foot down in her relationship and to express what needs to change, or take a break. She ended up telling me that she's tried to multiple times to make changes and it just wasn't working. I made plans with her the next night for dinner. We didn't discuss anything about the relationship that night. We ate dinner and had a great night full of stories and smiles. After I dropped her off at home she texted me expressing how much I mean to her and that I never fail to make her happy. This wasn't the first time she's said this to me, so I didn't take it as anything more than her valuing our friendship.
I woke up a few days ago to a social media DM of a picture of a quote from her. I opened it up and the quote said, "Imagine finding both love and friendship in one person.". I was taken by surprise with this. I didn't want to leave her without any sort of a response so I sent a bunch of hearts. (Corny right....) Anyways, I've had this quote bouncing around my head the past few days and it's been honestly bothering me. Questioning myself, "What did she mean by this?", "Does she have feelings for me?", "Is she testing the waters?", "Is she afraid of rejection from me after breaking up with her current boyfriend?". I'll be honest reddit, i'd do literally anything for this girl. She has become apart of my life. I'd be lying if the thought of us being romantically together didn't cross my mind now and again. Should I be doing anything at this point? I just want her to be happy again and I feel like she's realizing that I have that to offer to her. Help... lol
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