I’m writing this in hopes of finding people who have had similar experiences and want to hear how they coped with the situation I am in.
I am a first generation American 22M. For anyone who has immigrant parents you probably know that immigrant parents are bad at showing affection . I grew up with minimal physical and verbal affection from my parents. I would rarely hug my parents and they would rarely hug me or tell me they love me. That’s not to say that we don’t love each other , we do , very much so, it’s just that they grew up in an environment where saying “I love you” to each other wasn’t a thing and so they acted the same way towards their kids.
I feel that this is the reason I fall for every girl I talk to too fast. Every time I start talking to a girl I get too invested in that one person and start hoping for a relationship because I crave that affection that I never got as a kid and I want someone to be there to tell me they love me because I never heard those words as a kid. I have realized that my mind and body wants to make up for the lack of love and affection I never got.
There have been times where I have started going on dates with a girl and even if that person isn’t right for me I’ll convince myself that she’s the right person and I won’t realize it till later when she has broken my heart. I know that I have this problem but in the moment there is absolutely no way of telling myself what is right or wrong I’ll convince myself that the girl is that right person for me.
I feel like I don’t know my worth as a person. The two people that can help you best to realize your worth are your parents , but I never got that so I never learned how to value myself.
I want to know if this is something I should change about myself ?? Is it even possible to change this?? As it is rooted in my upbringing.
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