This girl (21F) and I (21M) met at work in May and hit it off, got her number in July, went on some dates at the end of summer and into fall, and weve been exclusive since November 5th. Shes told me before that whenever she gets mad she just wants to speak to no one, including her friends and that she will just go silent for like 2 days until she gets over whatever thing is bothering her. I get everyone has their ways of dealing with stuff, but I just find this behaviour kinda immature and honestly childish. I personally am one to talk it out, whether its directly with 'x" person or my mom or a friend.
Anyway here it goes,
We were face-timing until late at night, around 11:30pm, things were good we were laughing, joking, talking about what was going through our minds on our first date, talking about partying post pandemic, etc. We said goodnight and hung up as it was getting late and we both had work the next day. I wake up the next morning and send her a good morning text along with a few tik toks that i thought were funny to share, no reply but I figured it was because she was on the road otw to work as she starts earlier than me.
I get to work and go say hi to her, and I can tell right away that something is off. Shes quiet, barely looks my way, gives one word answers, almost mute. I ask her whats wrong and if everything is ok and she barely replys, not to mention shes wearing a mask so I can barely make out what she says. I walk away to get settled in and start the day, also so as to not draw attention from anyone. I make my way back to her and ask if anything happened at home in the morning, if she had a fight with her brothers or anything, and I reassured her that if she wants to talk or anything, that im all ears. (keep in mind the last time i talked to her was the night before and everything was fine).
I go about my day, sent her a text maybe 30 mins later asking again whats going on, no answer. At that point I decided to draw her a little flower with a happy face on a sticky note, I went to give it to her and told her that im here if she wants anything all I got was an "aw". (we draw little doodles for eachother on sticky notes, ive kept every one from her)
I also sent her a snapchat of the bubble tea I got, she opened it, and of course, no answer. I went on my lunch break at around 1pm and sent her a few funny tik toks along with a message asking if she wanted to meet up on our lunch outside so I could give her a hug and talk it out. You guessed it, no answer.
I finish my lunch at around 2pm and see that she was not at her desk anymore, and her car was gone, she finished work early. She told me the day before she was getting off early and we were on a phone call just to talk and in a way "be together" while I as at work still.
I sent her another text saying to have a good rest of her day and that I hope everything is ok. AGAIN, no answer. Later when I was leaving, i had a little gut feeling to look in the garbage by her desk, and sure enough, there it was, the sticky note with the flower I drew, thrown in the trash. That pissed me off more than made me sad (dont get me wrong im still crushed)
I havent contacted her since. All of this happened Wednesday, December 23. Im posting this on Thursday December 24th, there has been no contact and it is night time now on Christmas eve as Im posting this.
Overall this isnt the first time this has happened, Ive told her repeatedly that the least she can do is tell me something like "Hey I didnt like what you said" or "Something happened with my brother at home, Ill talk to you about it tomorrow, for now just give me some space". How hard is that? She has literally only done it once, out of like idk maybe 4 times shes gotten upset like this. Im trying not to let this affect my Christmas but I just care so much for her (or i did care). And even though she has told me she cares for me, the fact that I later found the drawing i did for her in the garbage shows me just how much she cared, almost nothing. Im extremely disappointed in her, especially for getting like this OUT OF NOWHERE, right before christmas. I dont know if I should break things off with her, or give her a chance to explain herself like a fucking adult.
TL;DR: Girl and I were on the phone one night, everything was fine. Next morning at work, shes pissed about something, about what? I have no idea because when she gets upset she goes silent, both in person and over text. All this right before christmas. Im debating breaking things off with her or giving her a chance to explain herself like an adult.
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