I'm pretty new to adult dating and have sort of a dilemma.
Ive been hooking up with a girl for a few weeks. I'm mid 20s she's, early 20s.
We slept together on the first date and she told me that she wasn't looking for anything serious and had just gotten out of a long term relationship. All cool with me. We usually just hook up and don't really go on dates, but we've been seeing eachother a lot (2-3 times a week) and texting every day. We never had any further conversations about our relationship - randomly in conversation she's told me that she's not sleeping with anyone else but that that's her personal preference.
I still occasionally sleep with another girl who I have a sort of FWB thing with. Casual hookup from the beginning as well, but we don't hang out as often or talk that much between seeing eachother.
I know that I haven't had the exclusivity conversation with Girl A and she said she wanted something causal at the beginning so i'm not technically doing anything wrong. But I still cant help but feel guilty about having sex with two girls at once. She never tried to have relationship conversation or anything like that with me but we do text all the time and hang out multiple times a week (she always sleeps over too) so i just cant shake this feeling that i'm doing something wrong. It does bring on a lot of feeling of guilt and anxiety. Mabye that's just a product of my relative lack of experience with dating and relationships.
I don't want to bring it up unless she does because its going to be an awkward convo and I don't want to drive her away. I like her but idk if i'm ready to make a decision about being in a relationship yet, so i certainly don't want to force the conversation prematurely. I could see myself potentially being into it in the future. Part of me also wants to keep my options open and not get too focused on her so I don't get hurt if she ultimately doesn't want anything more than a hookup (like she told me when we met). I feel like i'm in a weird limbo space right now and I don't know what the next step is.
Ending my rant now, maybe I just needed to vent. But i'd appreciate advice from anyone who's been in this kind of situation - male or female perspective. Thanks
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