People who patronisingly state that if you've never been in a relationship this must mean "you're not ready" or "you don't love yourself" failing to realise the longer it takes the worse and harder it gets.

This misconception that the person who is feeling lonely and desperate to get into a relationship (a lot of the time from a young to an old age) for the first time; get continually told things like, you need to work on yourself, or you're time will come and you just haven't found the right person yet. The never ending cursed loop of desperation being extremely bad for relationships. Yet the longer nothing happens; the worse this desperations becomes. I have worked on myself for many years now and this has not allowed women to magically float my way. You think bad boys "work on themselves" to get continuously laid and get into relationships? Of course they don't! So why is it this way for us out here who have been single all our lives? What a I missing? Stop saying those things because you are only making the situation worse and make the person who is suffering feel more negative about a situation by claiming they have no control over it. When I feel you should strive for everything you want no matter what the cost including a relationship; not by "waiting" or "working on yourself" but by relentlessly trying to figure out what the fuck is wrong with you and why the opposite sex appears to never like you in return. I'm sorry, but if I hear one more person tell me to love myself I might just shoot myself instead.

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