throwaway because he knows my reddit
my coworker and i have hung out nearly every day since he started working where i work. we'll go on walks for hours by lakes and hiking trails from 8pm to 5am, or sit and watch shitty tv or movies or just go to the theater on occasion. after 2 months of this hes moved in to my house and im not sure what to do
for context i have only 2 friends who i rarely talk to, so this is the first time in a few years ive had a close friend like this and he said its been the same for him
since hes moved in we've slept in the same bed but theres been absolutely no physical touch. im not sure if its an autism thing (his words, not mine) or if hes just to shy to do anything (as am i) (also, there is another bed but weve both agreed it uncomfortable)
neither of us can afford to move out (we pay weekly so leases arent an issue) and neither of us have anywhere else to go thats not an abusive situation, so i worry by asking him out im putting him in a situation where he has to choose between abusive household or awkward household, and given hes a shy person he might just want to leave immediately instead of dealing with weird social shit
while i have these intense feelings for him, i also genuinely enjoy his company even just as a friend. hes a perfect roommate (makes a mess sometimes but i actually like taking care after him) and he respects boundaries and helps me clean up around the house when its really needed
to complicate matters further, a week after we met we found a stray dog and have been taking care of her together and i would hate to keep him from the dog just because he wouldnt be comfortable living with me (if that is the case)
perhaps im overthinking it, but i cant help myself
ive decided i have to tell him, so i told a mutual acquaintance about this and he agreed to tell him if i dont ask him out by tomorrow night. hopefully this will give me the motivation i need to build enough confidence to ask him out
what im asking here is, how do i ask him out and, furthermore, is it even a good idea?
my apologies for this clusterfuck of a living arrangement
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