I (18M) have had a bit of a crush on a old friend (18F) since we were at secondary school. (We started liking each other back in late 2018) we never hit it off with each other cos school was not relationship friendly. Therefore it just kind of hid in the background so to speak. Would be important to note that she is quite a shy girl but maybe has become more outgoing overtime idk
(QUICK RECAP ON MAJOR EVENTS) fast forward to 2021 I decided to get in touch with her. I did this when she wished me happy birthday out of the blue. I didn’t think she’d remember after two years! I commented on an insta story she posted about some good deal on pancakes at this place she works asking her if the store was open for takeaway (covid lockdown in the Uk back in March 2021). She said yeah to which I replied joking about me being good a crépe-o-holic. She found it funny and continued the convo asking if I’d been etc. We had a good laugh and quick convo on what we were doing with our lives. Didn’t give it all away - just what college we were at at the time. Kept in touch over the next few weeks (usually sent sth funny or sth I was doing that was interesting etc). Kept convo light and playful.
When lockdown restrictions were lifted I offered to meet her in town after she finished college for the day to grab a coffee. She agreed. Met up with her. We had a chat while grabbing coffee. She actually bought me coffee even when I offered!. Sat in the park chatting. Nice and playful. I escalated a wee bit by lowkey touching her thigh for a second. Overall a positive and fun time. We parted ways with a hug and I said thanks for the coffee and I would return the favour sometime
A week passed until I got in touch again (exams kept me busy) she didn’t reply for two days which was a contrast to quick positive replies. Didn’t bother me intitially, I just replied back within an hour or so when I wasn’t busy. Had a quick chat then offered to meet up with her again after college. She declined saying she promised she would go see her aunt. I said no worries and left it at that.
Another week passed (exam week for me) until I said hello again. She again took at least two days to reply. Unfazed I replied back the day after she responded. I had sent her a meme or sth which she found funny. I kept the convo light and playful and talked about the fun stuff I did that day. Didn’t offer to meet up as I was very busy that week. Had other plans with friends. I only said hello as it had been a while since last time and didn’t want to give her the impressions I’d ghosted her.........
Exams week went by and then was off for the Easter hols. I eventually said hello again asking about how she’s enjoying Easter. Sent msg about 10-12 days since last text. This time was less fun. She didn’t reply back for 4 days which in hindsight was probably fair since I’d had not said hello for a while but I find it a little inconsiderate. Never mind.
On the 5th day I sent her another msg —> “her name!!!” Which she actually responded to within an hour. “Ok!, it’s been good you?” I replied jokingly about her taking ages to reply. I joked about thinking she had been kidnapped and forced into child slavery or sth. I guess she didn’t find it particularly funny as she replied a day later bluntly “nah, just busy”.
At this point i had lost the Will to try and continue talking with her so I replied “fairs. Hmu when you are not busy. Until then I wish you all the best” she replied “cheers you to” I think this means she ain’t bothered talking to me anymore. I suspect I was a little too needy and predictable.
I haven’t got in touch since 14th April (her last response) I’m quite willing to walk away at this point but was curious to see if I can sub communicate that I have improved as a person and ain’t needy or boring anymore. I believe in the saying that time and distance makes the heart grow fonder. If she has a little interest left in me she might consider reaching out. Any advice?? If you guys think I should move on just say it. I’ll take the hard truth 😂 thanks
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