M (22) been dating F (23) for 13 months and I’m conflicted on the future of our relationship and need advice. Going to give the good and the bad and see what Reddit thinks.
Good: - We at times click very well and can have lots of fun together. - We both care about one anotheretger and what our goals and ambitions are - We both our each other #1 supporter - I have some sex issues (PE mostly) and get worried about exploring other things because she isn’t overly mean about it and is somewhat patient about it. - She gives very thoughtful gifts and puts effort in that way. - Her family is very nice to me and welcomes me into their home and even pats for my dinner at times. - She cooks most meals and I can learn but definitely a + she’s willing to do that. - We have fun together and can make eachother laugh and have a good connection.
Bad: - She likes to “mom” me very often. Whether it’s when I drive or just doing small tasks she is very judgmental and at times mean at times. She will call me names and belittle me and stuff I never do to her. - She is very judgmental in general. She comes from a rich family in NY and I came from a less wealthy family in the South. Will make comments on peoples car, how much income they make etc everything has been handed to her and she can be very stuck up - Nearly all her decisons go through her dad and I feel like I find myself needing to “meet his expectations”. I’m 22 in the military with a job in my field and getting my bachelors degree next year all paid off by myself. Example: dad saw I made a few bets for fantasy football and freaked out and she had to lie to “cover my butt”. I’m a grown man whatever I wanna do with my money shouldn’t be his business and I just know he will be involved in our future decisions. So that’s a concern. She also wants to live around her family for a long time about 40 min away from where we currently are. I’ve lived here 22 years and kinda wanna explore so that’s another concern on top. - Despite my sex issues, it seems she has very little care for I guess what I want or treating me. I’ll go down on her for 30-40 min and only way I can get off would have to be through actual sex, haven’t received oral in months despite wanting it and telling her. - I work out 6 times a week and very big on it and she has no ambition to try. The part that gets me mad is she complains about weight and all this but won’t do anything to fix the diet and won’t do anything to try and get more active. - She doesn’t try really to be friends with my friends. We will go to social interactions and she won’t really talk and can sometimes be rude to people. She has no friends down here so I understand being hard to open up but can’t even try.
There’s more to both sides which I can elaborate on if anyone has questions about things. Just thinking where to go next
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