I [21M] know women have their own unique set of problems. But I'm not a woman so I can't speak on how those would personally affect me, nor can I speak on how they compare to male problems.
It seems like its just not socially acceptable to approach people in most places, and it seems like most women are extremely skeptical and cautious of men just approaching them. I mean, understandably so, I've read enough stories on this sub to understand WHY, but that doesn't make it any easier on people like me who aren't trying to hurt somebody.
What bothers me the most is just that, I'm going to have to take a shot in the dark, to an extremely anxiety provoking situation, just to have a chance at a date. And I go to STEM school, so its not like I actually find many girls around. I suppose I could go to meetups, but I've heard that many of those groups are full of guys or explicitly mention not to ask people out. I get that you shouldn't go to a meetup just to try to find girls or friends, but I would prefer to do something I like AND be social, not just the former. I'm fully aware that you shouldn't go to any sort of female dominated place unless you're actually interested in said activity.
I don't know. I have immense anxiety that I won't overcome the anxiety. I feel like I'll spend all my 20s and my 30s being a wuss who can't get dates without Tinder.
I'm not blaming anybody for this except myself. This is the way society is and I can't change it. I understand that it's truly up to me to overcome these mental roadblocks, even though I may never succeed.
I've been in therapy for 2 years. So do not tell me to go to therapy.
I'm not exactly looking for advice, I get that this is social norms and it can't really be changed. I'm just venting after getting rejected, I feel sorta pessimistic about dating. If you have anything non-generic to tell me, I'd like to hear it. Platitudes (e.g. stop worrying about it you're young) are unwelcome.
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