Its a long one. Sorry.
So I help run a small family electrical remodeling business. By small I mean it's my Dad and myself (31M). We do everything, which means he's almost always in earshot at work. And I haven't dated in a long time. Mostly because I don't find myself interested in the poly hook up thing thats really popular now and just get exhausted looking for someone similar.
Here's my issue:
We have a client that we've done a fair bit of work for. She's probably 5-10 years older than me? I don't know, I've never asked how old she was but judging from our conversations I'd put her around there. She started to remodel a small area to become finished living space for her and her dog, so she had a sort of tiny house and can rent the main house. She explained she spends more time out doing things with the dog than at home so it made sense to downsize while funding the adventures through rental income which I thought was really cool.
The project was a lot of diy on her end, which was a huge attraction for me, but it also meant we got to spend a fair bit of time with her and got to know her a little more personally. She's got a lot of the qualities that I would love to find in a partner. Turns out I'm infatuated with her and want to get to know her even more, but without my Dad next to me like Im 12 years old.
But I'm worried that infatuation is making me overly hopeful and I'm misreading the situation. And I'm worried if I am misreading it, it may cost us any potential future work. At this point unless she adds to the project the only thing left is to send an invoice. So I'm torn there. She was really awesome and I would love to keep working for her even if no feelings are reciprocated but dont think she would ever call back if I do happen to be wrong about it all.
Here's where it gets interesting for me:
We were wrapping up today, and talking before we left like we always do. But this time while we were both talking about how we treat our dogs like they're our children and their quirks, I brought up how mine is posessive of the car and house, and she casually asked if I was dating. It was like, "Oh even with your girlfriend? Or, I dont know if you're dating or not". I said no and joked about how my dog wouldn't let me, and she mentioned how she wasn't either because she wanted to find the right guy she could trust with her dog, as said dog was pretty much hugging me as much as a dog can actually hug something. We agreed you needed to find the right person for the dogs and kind of moved on to another subject. A few sentences later she mentioned how much her dog has always loved us and it wasn't normal for the dog to be so affectionate towards people, especially men.
I nearly jumped out of myself when she asked if I was dating, and really thought that was her way of telling me she was kind of interested, but had to quickly snap myself back to reality because I dont know if she's being friendly and I'm just reaching, and Dad was right next to me so it would be really weird to both throw myself out there and/or get rejected. So a few minutes later we said our goodbyes and went on with our day.
A little later in the day my Dad and I were talking and he brought up how he thought she might have been into me with that comment, along with a few others I apparently had missed the day before that.
So... what the hell should I do? Leave it alone? Or, do I call her and explain and hope its just something we can both laugh about if I miscalculated horribly? I'm less afraid of being rejected than potentially killing a great relationship with a great customer. But I also don't want to miss out on something deeper if that's what this could be.
Please help.
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