Gosh just typing the word rejection feels awful. How about kindly decline? Anyway. I have never dated in my life. I met someone young and married as a teen. I am in my late thirties now and my divorce was finalized last year.
Someone just approached me. He expressed he has been noticing me and wanted to introduce himself, but was nervous to do so. I was caught very off guard. I had no idea what to say.
I’m not interested in a relationship of any sort with him. I want to make new friends. I’ve been thinking of posting on one of the friend subs on Reddit sometime soon, but I don’t want him as a friend, or a possible significant other. I certainly don’t want to lead someone on or friend zone someone. I did not say any of this to him.
I thanked him for introducing himself and told him I was pleased to meet him, but I had only ever been in one relationship in my life and it was a long, difficult relationship. I said I’m not ready for a serious romantic relationship and couldn’t bare to bring my baggage into another persons life. I told him I appreciated him introducing himself as I know it takes courage to do that. I thanked him again and wished him a nice night. He was very kind and understanding.
He said he is shy and was afraid. I can be shy too and I really could sense how much he had put himself out there. I feel horrible. I don’t know if I handled it right. I felt so awkward. He did too. I know I cannot eliminate the sting of rejection, but I surely want to be mindful of others peoples feelings. How I treat others especially when they are being vulnerable matters a lot.
Could I have handled it better? I’m so inexperienced and don’t know what the hell I’m doing.
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