Sorry if the post is long but I feel like it's better if yiu guys have all the details.
I'm 23M meet a 23F in classes. We were put together in the same team by luck for the whole semester. I'm an introvert and she's an extrovert so she was the first one to reach out talking about a status that I had on Discord about bubble tea. We instantly clicked.
Fast foward a couple days we had a first exam and she was still the first one to reach out to me and ask how the exam went for me. I get good grades in school so I told her it went well for me. She then told me that she had difficulty for that classe so I offered her my help and to study together. She accepted and we we continue talking about anything.
I discovered that she play Valorant so I asked her how's the game and since I always wanted to try it, she invited me to play with her friends. I joined her friend groups and I liked the vibe. By the end, they ended up be friending me and I was part of their group now and play pretty much each days with them.
At that point her and I really started to get close. And she will sometimes tease me and be a little flirty which I play along. I will always be there for her when she needed me with school, personal problems, PC problems, etc. I saw her as one of my priorities.
One day, we were talking and she told me a problem she had. She was kinda seeing someone for 5 months now and she didn't like the vibe between them. The dude she was seeing didn't match her energy and she felt like he wasn't into her as must as she was into him. They met through a friend and she felt like things was forced between them. So she wanted to end what ever they were having (they didn't have any label yet). So I was just being a good friend and made sure that she felt listened and validated all the feeling she had.
They day she told her she wanted to end things between them, she became distant to everyone. So I decided to just give her some space. About a week, I asked her if think were okay and she told me that she regret ending things between the dude and her. She told me that she "wants to be with him and wants things to be like before". She was sad that she didn't gave him a chance and worked thing out. I told her that he showed you who he was and that she deserves betterm someone who will match the effort she puts in. She also asked me if she should reach out and try to give him another chance and work together. I told her that I didn't think that will be a good idea.
At the end, I told her that I will give her space for her to heal and move one. I wanted to ask her out before she told me that, but now I knew it was not a good time. She needed space and on top of that I didn't want to take advantage of her as she was low. So I just gave her space.
A couple days later, we talked and I asked her if she made a decision yet and she said that they talked and met irl and had a mature talk about what happened and how they could make things work. I was kinda sad to heard that and she kinda noticed it and said to me "you're sad ain't you?". I replied "yes I really liked you and was really interested in getting to know you even more but I see that you have feeling for him". They still don't have any label and they are just seeing if things can go well.
She didn't explicitly rejected me nor told me if she is interested in me. She is still teasing when we talk. And even used a excuse just to talk to me (my Intuition told me that she wanted something more while she reached out with a random thing and I asked her directly and she confessed to me that it was an excuse to talk to me).
I don't really know how to feel about this. I'm telling myself that she knows I'm interested and if she's not than I'm just wasting my time chasing after her. I also don't want to be used as attention to her or doing the boyfriend job for someone else. Also I can't really leave her friend group as they have already be friend me.
Should I stay friend? Do I hope that things won't go well between them? Any advice?
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